Lola’s POV: Are you a boss or a b*tch?

I am very lucky.  I’ve had the opportunity of surrounding myself with strong, powerful women from all walks of life: CEO’s, managers, entrepreneurs, professionals, etc. So, very early in life, I’ve been able to dispel the myth that only men can hold positions of power. The reason why most CEO’s and “bosses” tend to be men is that society has always portrayed men as an alpha or as capable of leading the pack and excelling with their amazing 24k testosterone. But I’m not here to bash men because it’s not their fault entirely that women have been pushed down for centuries for men to be leaders. I love men, honestly. No, I’m not being sarcastic. Yes, seriously. In honor of women’s week, I’m here to talk about the age-old double standard that so many have accepted without question, mostly in the workplace: Men are bosses. Women are bitches.

BITCH: A bitch is just a bully in a skirt. Reads a definition from the Urban Dictionary.

Ok, Urban Dictionary is not really Merriam Webster, but it paints an accurate picture of how the millennial generation perceives and relates to this word.  When a woman in the workspace or in a school environment becomes a leader, a tough and driven female who is destined to be in a position of power and attend to her duties in the way that she understands is successful, she is a bitch. When a woman demands more, she is a bitch. When a woman will not stop until she gets what she wants, Ugh what a bitch! We have been labeled with the inevitable from people who are afraid or who have become shocked by the fact that yes, women can be powerful too and we do have the right to be entitled to our opinions and expect more from the people that surround us. Notice I said surround us, not beneath us. Because when you speak about equality, you are not looking to be superior to anyone, just equal. The only problem is, how can we continue when double standards have been perpetuated to the extent that some assume they are unbreakable.

BOSS: A person who is of a higher life form than most feeble humans. They literally demand respect. All of their actions are aimed at consolidating their place as the top dog, and these actions are conducted in the smoothest manner possible.

The word boss, on the other hand, refers to the leader, a person who demands respect and expects to receive it.  And what I have come to notice is that when women employ these qualities they are not thought of as a boss or as a leader but as bitches. Women are not powerful, they’re bossy. Women are not vocal, they’re obnoxious. Women are not persistent, they are whiney. It’s time to put a stop to these generalizations and misused labels that have for the longest time perpetuated the double-standard we so desperately need to shatter.

Who created the double standard anyway? We can be the ones to change the world if given a chance (and if we don’t we will make sure to create those opportunities). The world is changing. The workplace is changing. So, let’s change the language as well. Let’s call things by their name. Men can be bosses, as so can women. Use the terms that accurately describe us, and not the ones that will try to make sense of a woman in power, while soothing someone’s bruised ego.




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