Being a woman in this day and age can be cruel. Why? Because every day we are bombarded with images of ‘ideal beauty’ in the form of magazine ads, billboards, even pop-up ads in our email and social media pages. It can be pretty tempting to start comparing yourself to what others find attractive. While having a shapely figure, awesome makeup, a killer hairdo, and a nice outfit can make a woman feel alive, vibrant, and sexy, true beauty comes in her confidence to love herself, flaws and all.
I struggled with self-confidence issues for a while. It’s been an uphill battle, but once I started really investing in myself and my confidence, the things that once bothered me ceased.
How did I get to this point? A lot of prayers, patience, and these tips listed below:
Fix What You Don’t Like
We live in a highly advanced world in which you can pretty much transform yourself into the ideal image you’d like to see when you look in the mirror—a risky proposition, to be sure. Whether you’re struggling with weight issues, skin imperfections, or body issues that you’re not proud of, there are typically several solutions out there you can try.
Now I’m not advocating changing things about your appearance simply to please others. But if there is something you would like to improve, it’s a good idea to take a proactive approach and see what kind of progress you can make.
For instance, if you are struggling with your weight, dieting and exercise can help. If your issue is a skin imperfection, such as unsightly varicose veins, you could look into treatments reduce or eliminate the appearance of those veins.
Walk Around Naked
This should probably be done in the comfort of your own home or in the ladies locker room at your gym, but there is something about walking around in the nude that can help you to embrace who you are. Admire yourself in the mirror and speak positive affirmations about yourself. The more you say and do it, the better you will feel.
Check Out Women Your Size
The thing about beauty is that it comes in all colors, shapes, and sizes. Sometimes, in order to love the skin you’re in, it’s helpful to see other women with similar body types who are WORKING it. Their confidence may just rub off on you. (Remember, this is about confidence building, not comparing yourself to others to break yourself or them down).
Maybe you’re used to taking the kids out, going out with friends, or tagging along with the hubby – well it’s time to get out there and see what life is like on your own. Sometimes when you’re out by yourself, you start to feel a bit more comfortable. This was very true for me in that I would consider myself an introvert and had friends who were more outgoing who would steal the spotlight. By putting myself out there and going it on my own, I began to feel more confident in my own identity.
Sometimes feeling positive in your own skin means getting something new. Maybe it’s been awhile since you’ve bought yourself an outfit or changed your hairstyle. You’re a beautiful woman who certainly deserves to have nice things, so don’t hesitate to treat yourself sometimes. There’s something about stepping out with a new look that can make you feel great.
Whether it’s weight, skin imperfections, or a social ill, you can get past it. At the end of the day, feeling good about who you are and confident in your skin is all mind over matter. If you can change the way you think about yourself, what others have to say won’t matter as much.
–Carolyn Scott-Hamilton is an award-winning healthy, special diet and green living and travel expert, holistic nutritionist, plant based vegan chef, and best-selling cookbook author. Follow her online at healthyvoyager.com