Demi Lovato Comes Out as Nonbinary and Changes Pronouns

Grammy-nominated singer Demi Lovato has been opening up in the public eye most recently with their four-part Youtube docuseries Dancing with the Devil. They opened up about their broken engagement and that they’re “too queer to marry a man in my life right now.” Now with their new podcast, 4D, they revealed they’re nonbinary. “Over the past year and a half, I’ve been doing some healing and self-reflective work. And through this work, I’ve had the revelation that I identify as nonbinary. With that said, I’ll be officially changing my pronouns to they/them.”

“I feel that this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and am still discovering,” said Lovato in a video clip posted on social media. “Today is a day I’m so happy to share more of my life with you all,” they wrote. “I’m doing this for those out there that haven’t been able to share who they truly are with their loved ones. Please keep living in your truths & know I am sending so much love your way.”

Every day we wake up, we are given another opportunity & chance to be who we want & wish to be. I’ve spent the majority of my life growing in front of all of you… you’ve seen the good, the bad, & everything in between. pic.twitter.com/HSBcfmNruo

— Demi Lovato (@ddlovato) May 19, 2021

The term nonbinary has grown in use in the past few years and, according to the Human Rights Campaign, refers to someone who does not identify as the traditional binaries of man or woman. They could identify as both or in between the two or neither. Lovato has been a vocal supporter of the LGBTQ+ community throughout their career. While on tour with Nick Jonas in 2016, they canceled a show in North Carolina to protest the state’s HB2 law, which then required transgender people to use the bathroom for the gender assigned to them at birth. Now as an openly queer nonbinary, Lovato is dedicated to using her platform to educate others.

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“This has come after a lot of healing & self-reflective work. I’m still learning & coming into myself, & I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson. Sharing this with you now opens another level of vulnerability for me,” they shared on Twitter.

Lovato talked with first guest Alok Vaid-Menon, a gender non-conforming writer and performer, about non-binary identities. They discussed pronouns with the 28-year-old singer saying “it would mean the world if people could start identifying me as they/them. However, she’ll “be accepting” if people “slip” and use she/her and saying they’ll appreciate people “making the effort.”

“I’m doing this for those out there that haven’t been able to share who they truly are with their loved ones. Please keep living in your truths and know I am sending so much love your way,” they said.