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40 Books You Need to Get Your Life Together

 

Let’s be real — adulting is hard. We are taught everything since birth, and once we become adults, we are expected to know and learn everything else. It’s a really sink or swim mentality that can leave a lot of us anxious, confused, and depressed. Once we reach adulthood, the resources available to us for life guidance seem to dwindle and we are conditioned to believe that asking for help is immature, weak, and unnecessary.

But that’s not true. Every day we are learning, and we need guidance every step of the way during our life journey. We may not want to talk to someone face to face all the time about our life concerns, but advice is always appreciated. This is where the well-written self-help book comes in. It’s all the information you need to reset your life’s vision, path, and mindset, all in one handy, portable book. The following are 40 great books whose goal is to help you get your life together, m’ijas.

Self Made: Becoming Empowered, Self Reliant, and Rich in Every Way by Nely Galán

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We all want to be self-made success stories. Nely Galán was generous enough to help us out with a guide. Self Made: Becoming Empowered, Self-Reliant, and Rich in Every Way is the Latina entrepreneur and first Latina president of Telemundo’s book on how to change your mindset from short-term happiness to going after long-term goals. Some chapters include “Don’t buy shoes, buy buildings!,” “Think like an immigrant,” and “There is no Prince Charming.”

Girl Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be by Rachel Hollis

There are many instances where we stand in our own way. During those times, we could use another woman supporting us and telling us to cut it out. Rachel Hollis is that friend, sharing important and empowering messages in her #1 New York Times bestseller Girl Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be. She details 20 lies we need to stop believing, so we can get on with being our awesome selves.

How to Make Sh*t Happen: Make more money, get in better shape, create epic relationships and control your life! by Sean Whalen

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It’s true that many of us live long lives. But that doesn’t mean life is for procrastinating on what you want to achieve. All we really have is now. That’s why we are intrigued by this book: How to Make Sh*t Happen: Make more money, get in better shape, create epic relationships and control your life! Author Sean Whalen separates life into four categories (CORE 4,) and then helps you win in those areas, in this short, straightforward read (only 108 pages).

The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor

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With a title like The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love, how could we not recommend this book?! Author, poet, educator, and activist Sonya Renee Taylor shows readers how the world has made women dislike themselves, and how we have to learn to love ourselves first, in spite of that, in order to positively change the world.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

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Sometimes — well a lot of the time — we find ourselves caring way too much about the little things.  We’ll obsess over what others think about us, about constantly being positive all the time, about trying to be “perfect.” In the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, author Mark Manson is here to be brutally honest, readjust our expectations, and help us be ok with adversity.

Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking by S.J. Scott and Barrie Davenport

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Another thing that holds us back from success is anxiety, a cluttered mind, stress, and negative thinking. Luckily, S.J. Scott and Barrie Davenport’s book aims to help us with these roadblocks. Their book, Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking explains what causes mental clutter, and shows specific ways to clean it up.

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené Brown

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When we start to embrace our imperfections, it changes our lives. This is the message contained in Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Having gone to #1 on the New York Times‘ Bestsellers list, and with over 2 million copies sold, it’s evident that Brown is inspiring many people with her motivating words.

The Happiness Project (Revised Edition): Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin

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In regards to what you can control, happiness is a constant choice — every day and in every moment. But you also have to make an effort doing the things that actually make you happy. In the book The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin makes it a point to spend an entire year experiencing happiness, after she realized time was passing her by.

Latino Success: Insights from 100 of America’s Most Powerful Latino Business Professionals by Agusto Failde and William Doyle

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When we see Latinxs winning and succeeding in their careers, of course we want to know how they did it. Someone should write a book, no? Well someone did! Agusto Failde and William Doyle asked 100 of the country’s biggest Latinx professionals for their book, Latino Success. Various inspiring stories show how these different business people achieved their goals in the face of adversity.

Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life, by Gary John Bishop

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Several of these empowering books have strong words in their titles, but it’s to drive the point home, in a straightforward, no BS kind of way. This book is called Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life, but the messages contained in it seem to have struck a chord. The work by Gary John Bishop was a New York Times‘ bestseller. One such message is this: “The only difference between you and the person who is living the life you want is that they’re doing it. They’ve built that life, and they’re living it.”

I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl, by Alexis Jones

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We all need encouragement, from as many places as possible. We want to hear inspiring words and validation that we got this. Alexis Jones’ book I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose and #bethatgirl aims to be that encouragement for women, with the advice being shared in the tone of a BFF who cares.

The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck

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The Road Less Traveled is a classic with over 7 million copies sold. The book by M. Scott Peck was first released in 1978 and addresses psychology, faith, suffering, love, and other profound topics regarding life. Many have regarded it as a life-changing read, and the original publication has led to other The Road Less Traveled books.

You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar

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Women are conditioned from a young age to think that they have to look a certain way, weigh a certain amount, and never get fat. Author-activist and expert on body image and fat discrimination, Virgie Tovar says no mas to the whole thing and penned the fabulous book, You Have the Right to Remain Fat. It takes a look at fatphobia, racism, misogyny, diet culture, and includes her own personal stories living as a plus size woman, and deciding to live the life she wants.

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing Hardcover by Marie Kondo

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You may have heard of uber-organizer Marie Kondo, seen her on Netflix (Tidying Up with Marie Kondo), or read her book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. She has become a star, by encouraging us to pare down and keep only the things that “spark joy” within us. Her best-selling book will inspire you to live more simply, with proven steps on how to declutter successfully and happily.

Latina Power!: Using 7 Strengths You Already Have to Create the Success You Deserve by Dr. Ana Nogales with Laura Golden Bellotti

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We are all about harnessing our fabulous Latina power, and now, there is a book that can help us all do it. In the book Latina Power!, Dr. Ana Nogales and Laura Golden Bellotti share with us seven traits that we already have, by virtue of being Latinx (and how those traits can work in our favor in our careers):

– Espíritu Creativo (Creative Spirit)
– The Aguantadora’s (Survivor’s) Passionate Determination
– The Comadre’s (Girlfriend’s) Networking Ability
– The Diplomática’s (Diplomat’s) Discretion
– The Atrevida’s (Risktaker’s) Courage
– The Malabarista’s (Multitasker’s) Balance
– La Reina’s (A Diva’s) Confidence

In Praise of Difficult Women: Life Lessons From 29 Heroines Who Dared to Break the Rules by Karen Karbo

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Women are often chastised for being difficult, but that trait is also what gets us ahead in life. It’s what makes women resilient. Difficult usually just means non-conforming, and we are ok with that! Karen Karbo’s book, In Praise of Difficult Women: Life Lessons From 29 Heroines Who Dared to Break the Rules, celebrates several ladies who chose not to travel the easy route in life, and succeeded because of it.

Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes

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When a wildly successful woman like television producer, TV and film writer, and author Shonda Rhimes writes a book, you take notice, as well as notes. She penned the book Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person, and in it, describes how she chose “yes” in many situations and how that changed her life.

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

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Being a creative person is a gift, a special life experience, but it is also scary. You are taught from a young age to enjoy art, but not to take it too seriously as a career. That even entertaining it is risky, irresponsible, and absurd. And then there are all the things you already tell yourself. But creators should create, even if it is for zero profit because it is who they are. Elizabeth Gilbert tackles the negative thinking surrounding creativity in her inspiring book Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear.

Adulting 101: #Wisdom4Life by Josh Burnette and Pete Hardesty

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Adulting is hard, and there should be a manual for it. Josh Burnette and Pete Hardesty figured the same and penned the book, Adulting 101: #Wisdom4Life. In it, they show graduates (and anyone else who can use the advice) how to successfully be an adult, including how to:

– Find a job and be wildly successful at work
– Buy the items you need as an adult (apartment, car, insurance)
– Set goals, prioritize, and get work done
– Communicate professionally and effectively
– Save and invest wisely
– Navigate personal and professional relationships
– Avoid the common mistakes of being out on your own

How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness by Andrea Owen

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One of the basic, universal things that bind all human beings is our innate desire to be happy. But being happy is sometimes easier said than done, especially when we stand in our own way of it. Author Andrea Owen helps us get out of this self-sabotaging behavior with her no-nonsense book, How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness.

The Babe Bible: Every Woman’s BFF – Love Letters to Guide You Through Life’s Toughest Lessons, Soothe Your Heart, and Sparkle Your Soul by Shani Jay

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Another thing we all need is to feel heard and understood. Especially when we are going through rough times. And we can also use encouraging words to see us through. BFFs are great for this, but if you don’t have your BFF around, don’t have one, or just could use the extra encouragement, then you have to read Shani Jay’s The Babe Bible: Every Woman’s BFF – Love Letters to Guide You Through Life’s Toughest Lessons, Soothe Your Heart, and Sparkle Your Soul. In it, she has written a letters to the reader within seven sections:

– Body
– Spirit
– Confidence
– Vulnerability
– Love
– Hope
– Inspiration

The Path Made Clear: Discovering Your Life’s Direction and Purpose by Oprah Winfrey

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Oprah just doles out knowledge, that’s been proven. So when we saw this book of hers, we just had to share. The Path Made Clear: Discovering Your Life’s Direction and Purpose, is all about taking the time to find your life purpose and honoring that. It’s filled with quotes by Winfrey, as well as several others (Lin-Manuel Miranda, Jay-Z, Elizabeth Gilbert, Eckhart Tolle, etc.), by people who found their calling.

Who Moved My Cheese?: An A-Mazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life by Dr. Spencer Johnson

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It is hard to like change. It is often unexpected, confusing, and unsettling. It’s only when we shift our perspective of change that everything changes. The book, Who Moved My Cheese?: An A-Mazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life, by Dr. Spencer Johnson, helps teach us how to predict change, embrace it, and deal with it in a better, more positive manner.

Bloom: A Gift For The Girl Learning To Love Her Beautiful Soul by Shani Jay

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Shani Jay writes books that are inspiring, motivating, and so positive! Another book of hers we thought you should check out is Bloom: A Gift For The Girl Learning To Love Her Beautiful Soul. It is all about inspiring self-love and self-worth, all packed into a short, yet powerful, read.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life by Richard Carlson

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Classic books are such because they are timeless, important, and add something to your life. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and it’s all small stuff is a helpful guide, first published in 1997, that shares 100 ways to stop stressing and start living! The best seller spawned a whole slew of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff books, each focusing on love, work, family, money, and more.

The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College by Harlan Cohen

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Just like there should be a manual (or several) on mastering the art of adulting, there should be books on what to expect when you go to college. Luckily, author Harlan Cohen penned The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College. Success in college is about being prepared and this book shares tips on important topics, like bad roommates, dating, parties, money, managing stress, and more.

Secrets of Six-Figure Women: Surprising Strategies to Up Your Earnings and Change Your Life by Barbara Stanny

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Women deserve to get paid well for the great work that they do in their careers. But a lot of times, ladies are underpaid and underappreciated. We want you to earn what you should, so we are recommending the book, Secrets of Six-Figure Women: Surprising Strategies to Up Your Earnings and Change Your Life, by Barbara Stanny. The author interviewed several women who earn $100,000 or more and found things that they all had in common, that we can all learn from.

Be Unapologetically You: A Self Love Guide for Women of Color by Adeline Bird

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A lot of self-help books are great and helpful, but often not told from a WOC perspective. We experience things that may not get addressed in a lot of these books, and therefore we can feel left out and not represented, or that the book is not even relevant to our lives. That’s why we need motivating books written by WOC, from WOC perspectives, and which include WOC experiences, like Adeline Bird’s Be Unapologetically You: A Self Love Guide for Women of Color.

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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More often than not, we are depressed because we are constantly thinking about the past, and/or anxious, since we are dwelling on a future that hasn’t happened yet. In order to remedy this, we have to learn to live in the now. Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now helps us to shift the focus, not to what was or what may be, but what is.

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

A classic self-help book to read is The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. It is based on Toltec wisdom and looks at four important tips on life:

  • Be Impeccable with Your Word
  • Don’t Take Anything Seriously
  • Don’t Make Assumptions
  • Always Do Your Best

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Published over 25 years ago, The Artist’s Way is still helping creatives feel understood, and providing guidance for those who live an artist’s way of life. You will learn effective tips to get out of ruts and organize your life for maximum creativity.

Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla Saad

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Now more than ever, people are picking up books that inform on the topics of racism, civil rights, and how to create lasting change towards equality. One of the books that many are picking up is Layla Saad’s Me and White Supremacy. It teaches white people, including white Latinxs, to recognize their white privilege and take the correct and necessary steps to combat racism.

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

A classic book on love and relationships is Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages. By reading it, you will learn about and understand the various ways in which people like to show and receive love. These are:

  • Words of affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch

Get Out of Your Head by Jennie Allen

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We are in charge of our thoughts. They are not in charge of us.⁣ ⁣ We’ve believed we are victims to our thoughts and that little lie has affected EVERY PART OF LIFE.⁣ ⁣ So no more. Jesus died for us and gave us power over darkness and that includes the darkness in us! This was a war to create over the last 2 years and a war to live but goodness no project has personally changed my life more.⁣ ⁣ The devil has been winning long enough between our ears. ⁣ This book doesn’t come out till January ugh! But today if you pre-order you get the first 2 chapters! Pre-order anywhere and head to GetOutofYourHeadbook.com and you can get the chapters! ⁣ Also we are giving away 10 early copies! So like this post and tag every friend you want to read it with! Every tag is an entry. ⁣ ⁣ And I’m vulnerably setting this here- so I’d also love to hear how you feel about this subject? #getoutofyourheadbook

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We are our own worst enemies, and can constantly pay attention to the negative self-doubt that we breed in our own minds. We get stuck in our head, and need a reset in order to live the life we want to. Jennie Allen’s Get Out of Your Head joins tips on ending toxic thoughts and a focus on faith in order to help us live our best, positivity-filled lives.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey 📚 . Habit 1️⃣: Be Proactive. Stop wasting time on things you can’t control, and start focussing on the things you can. Habit 2️⃣: Begin with the End in Mind. “What would you like people to say about you at your own funeral?” With that in mind, start acting like the person you would like to be remembered as. Habit 3️⃣: Put First Things First. There are a lot of things we would like to accomplish, which can make you feel overwhelmed. Prioritize and focus on one thing at a time. For a more in-depth explanation of this concept, check out my post about The One Thing! Habit 4️⃣: Think Win/Win. It’s a common misconception that another person has to lose, in order for you to win. This mindset will set you up for failure and misery in both your professional and personal relationships. Habit 5️⃣: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Empathy is crucial in convincing anyone of anything. If you’re not willing to consider what they have to say, then why should they consider what you have to say? For more on this, scroll back to my post about How to Win Friends and Influence People! Habit 6️⃣: Synergize. Think in terms of cooperation rather than competition. 1 + 1 = 3. Habit 7️⃣: Sharpen the Saw. A while ago I enrolled in an online course on speed-reading and improving my memory, but procrastinated on it. Meanwhile, I continued to read books on other subjects. Now that I’ve finally gone through the course, I realize that I could have done much more reading in the same amount of time if I had “sharpened the saw” earlier. Which of these seven is your favorite habit? 💬 . . . #bookstagram #habitofreading #whattoread #thesevenhabitsofhighlyeffectivepeople #the7habitsofhighlyeffectivepeople #stephenrcovey #bookclub #nonfiction #bookaesthetic #booksofinstagram #booksofig #bookphoto #bookphotography #booktography #bookgram #bookpic #booknerds #businessbooks

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Some self-help books remain classics for their helpful messages and ability to help the masses. One such book is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Published 30 years ago, it teaches and delves into such timeless lessons as:

  • Be Proactive

and

  • Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Practicing Mindfulness: 75 Essential Meditations to Reduce Stress, Improve Mental Health, and Find Peace in the Everyday by Matthew Sokolov

Mindfulness aims to bring us to the present moment, which is so hard when we are constantly all over the place, multitasking and focusing on the past and the future, more than the right now. That’s why books like Practicing Mindfulness are so important. In this publication, 75 meditations are provided, which will help us feel better, more centered, and more at peace.

You may have a great idea for starting your own business, but may feel apprehensive about finally taking the plunge with your dream. Books like Crushing It! give you guidance and tips for making the transition a more seamless one. Learning from the success of others can only bolster your own, as you benefit from their trials and triumphs, and the knowledge that comes from that.

We can drown in the need to be accepted and seen as likable by others. Author Alicia Menendez sees it for the trap that it is, keeping you from being your authentic, empowered self. That is why she wrote the book The Likeability Trap, so that we can learn to not focus on being liked, but rather on our success.
It is baffling how little we are taught about well-being and how to take care of our bodies. Deepak Chopra and Rudolph Tanzi’s The Healing Self teaches us how to take control of our own health, and how to “manage chronic stress and inflamation.” By doing so, we can build our immunity and lead more healthy lives.

So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo

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Race and racism are undoubtedly the two words I’ve heard the most over the past two weeks. Most heard phrase? Black lives matter. So You Want to Talk About Race should be required reading for every teen and adult…seriously. I read this book when it initially came out years ago and recently read it again last week in the wake of the current uprisings. Author Ijeoma Oluo uses relatable experiences throughout. She also provides tips, guidelines and points of discussion and reflection. I’d highly recommend it for people of all races, but especially for white people who are committed to going on an anti-racist journey and ready to do the work. Double tap if you’ve read this one or are looking forward to reading it. #soyouwanttotalkaboutrace @ijeomaoluo #blacklivesmatter #letstalkaboutrace 📷: @jaynarobotham

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Another great, and popular book on educating ourselves about race and racism is Ijeoma Oluo’s So You Want to Talk About Race. Full of “honest conversations,” which a reviewer from Salon also deemed “empathetic yet usefully blunt,” it’s exactly what we all should be reading right now for better understanding and lasting change.