Last month, I was lucky enough to see two of my favorite people get married in what turned out to be a unique, memorable and extremely personalized wedding. I have known one of the grooms for almost 10 years, and it was a pleasure to see the two men make their vows to each other. The wedding itself was incredibly special, not only because of the great couple getting married but also because of the love shared between everyone who bore witness to the union.
As I danced the night away at my first gay wedding (or, let’s just say, the first non-straight wedding that I’ve attended), I couldn’t help but glance around the room for inspiration for my very own. Just a month before my friends tied the knot, I got engaged to my partner. We had been talking about it for months, and finally decided to make things “official.” Although we are still early in the wedding planning process, there is one thing that I know: We don’t want to spend a ton of money on a wedding, but we do want to make things special. Taking a cue from one of my best friends’ wedding, here are eight things that I learned about saving money from attending a gay wedding:
Think outside the box when it comes to dessert.
Everyone expects the newly married couple to cut into a big ol’ cake at the end of the night, but it’s also true that wedding cakes are one of the biggest expenses that you can expect to spend on your big day. Instead, my friends opted to serve cookies from their favorite bakery. They also surprised guests with an ice cream truck, which stopped by at the end of the night. It was completely unexpected, and completely wonderful. Having warm cookies and cold ice cream at their wedding was completely unique and two desserts that I know meant a lot to them as a couple. Why spend money on cake when you can spend money on something more “you” instead?