We’ve all been there: you wake up in the morning and just don’t feel like your sexy self. You try on a few outfit options and hairstyles, but nothing can seem to lift you up. “Oh, well” you think, “hopefully I won’t run into anyone I know today.” If these days only come once in awhile, you might chalk it up to the highs and lows of being human. But if you doubt your attractiveness on the regular, there’s a good chance that insecurity is affecting your life in a variety of ways. Here are some ways to revamp your wardrobe to lift your spirits, so you can bring that badass self-confidence with you wherever you go.
The Law of Attraction
You may have heard about, or already used, the law of attraction—it was the basis of that book The Secret a few years ago. But have you applied its principles to beauty? Your self-image has a significant impact on your happiness, and according to the law of attraction, what you focus on grows. In other words, you hit what you head for (I always love a good driving metaphor). If you entertain concerns about how you look, you contribute to insecurity. Instead, you need to concentrate on what you love about how you look.
If it doesn’t help you feel great, get rid of it
Look through your wardrobe to inspect clothing. Do some garments add to your anxiety? Anything that makes you feel bad about yourself needs to go. If there’s nothing wrong with it, donate it to an organization helping other women thrive. When you get rid of clothes that don’t aid confidence, there’s less to fuel anxiety about your looks.
Donating to charity keeps prosperity flowing. By giving goods away, you announce to the universe, and your brain, that you have plenty. As a result, feelings of abundance grow.
If it holds negative memories (or has holes!) ditch it
Face it: some clothes in your wardrobe has seen better days. Maybe you hoard them because you can’t afford replacements. But if you make a conscious decision to improve your wardrobe, you can approach it item by item—no need for an all-out shopping spree.
Keep the clothes that help you feel prosperous and attractive; let go of those that increase negativity. Clothes with rips, holes, or broken zippers can affect your sense of worth. Even if you’re left with only a few outfits that increase your well-being, you’re better off.
Once in a while, buy a beautiful item of clothing, something you feel excited about when you see it and put it on. It might complement your figure or be made from some gorgeous material. Perhaps it will be a designer piece or come from a boutique you admire; either way, ensure it is good quality. Don’t go into credit card debt to do this, but maybe instead of going for your usual fast fashion picks, save for a few months until a single, high quality item really catches your eye.
When you take it home, wear it! If you put it at the back of your closet it isn’t going to do anything for your self-esteem. Living in dowdy, purely functional clothes can make you think of yourself as a person who belongs in those clothes. Wearing garments you love will improve the way you see yourself.
For some extra inspiration, check out this video from stylist Lauren Messiah on putting together outfits:
You might not think you have a lot of clothes that aid good feelings, but you don’t need much. Perhaps you have a few terrific accessories. Add a beautiful scarf, designer belt, or fabulous shoes to an outfit. Well-chosen additions can perfect your appearance, improving your inner and outer reflections.
Get rid of attire that makes you feel unattractive or causes you to feel needy. Find clothing you love, not only on the rack, but on your body. When you wear your best clothes, whether it’s a special occasion or not, your self-confidence will soar.